We are writing this letter to tell you three simple things. We hope that you read carefully and can find it in yourselves to trust us. Know that we are being real; we know how you feel and know how difficult it can be.
You’re cared about.
We know, it sounds silly and super vague, but we’re being honest. You are cared about- right now, in this very moment. And we aren’t just speaking for ourselves. Of course we care about you, but so do many other people. Your dad, your brother or your sister, your pets and your baby cousins. Your peers. Your best friend. The advisers of your clubs. Your high school English teacher. Your RA. Your significant other. Your mom. The kids you babysit for. Maybe you know that all of these people care about you. Maybe you picked out one or two. But the point is that you matter and you are loved. Your very existence is powerful and means something. It means that right now you are exactly who you are meant to be.
You have somewhere to go and are supported.
There are places on this very campus. There is Allies. A club on campus that exists to support LGBTQA students; to give you a place to feel safe and accepted and at home. This is a place to express yourself, to be who you are, to become a family. We meet every single week in the same place, at the same time, Wednesdays at 6 p.m. in OEC 212. Maybe that’s not your thing, or it seems a bit overwhelming right now, like something you aren’t quite sure if you’re comfortable with. There is still a place for you and it’s called The Space. This is a place for students who identify as queer or questioning. It’s anonymous and confidential, a place that is unknown by anyone but the people who are in it . Please contact one of us for more information – just send an e-mail. This is a place, or a space, to figure out who you are, where you can be surrounded by people who not only support you but understand you.
Seek out these places. They’re here just for you.
It gets better.
Maybe it seems like you have nowhere to go. Or maybe it feels like you’re stuck and completely isolated. Or maybe it feels like you just can’t handle everything you’re thinking and feeling.
But this is a process. A tough one. It takes strength, courage and other people. It takes seeking out those places and recognizing the love that exists. It takes knowing that you matter and that you are worth it. And knowing that you can do it.
And remember, it gets better. We promise.
Jess Novak & Nick Kor